On the one hand: everyone deserves love
On the other hand: you're not obligated to love anybody
@maenad the idea that you're not personally responsible for all the needs of everyone around you is a tough concept for trauma survivors i think. but it's worth repeating until it sinks in.
@tessaracht I've been personally struggling a little bit with this
it's the nice guy problem - "oh but he's so nice why don't I like him?"
only, for me, with pretty much everyone right now.
And, idk, it's hard not to compromise on that.
@maenad but that's exactly it! it's not about him, it's about you. if you don't feel a thing for someone, you're not obligated to force yourself to try and feel a thing. that's not on you.
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