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In the last month I lost two members of my family, roadtripped across the country and back, and made countless masks.

if you need a cloth mask, hmu.

right before I left a dude I'd been sort of seeing for a long time debated stopping talking to me to go monogamous with this really toxic chick and I had to be like "we're friends so let me just say she sounds toxic." (between "I've known you two weeks so stop talking to this person and date me" and "I don't like oral but maybe if I'm drunk")

he drove me to NJ from NM and back 1 week later. Road trip took 3 weeks. Guess we're dating now, like for real.

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I was sitting with him when my grandmother died and said something like "what am I going to do? make you drive me to St Louis to say goodbye?" and he said "I will" and we went "wait nevermind"

48 hrs later we were in line at Jo Ann's and I got the phone call that my dad died. So that was the "okay guess we're going to NJ now" moment.

My grandmother died because she was old, my dad died from a heart attack while doing yard work.

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my therapist joked with me that the universe was just trying to shove us together.

I don't believe in that kind of thing but. It's a funny, if vain, thought. "Your grandmother was the warning shot".

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pers meta relationships life 

@maenad Please tell me he's no longer interested in toxic chick.

Also that you're pretty sure spending three weeks driving around the country with you doesn't mean he thinks he's mono with you (unless that's what you want)

pers meta relationships life 

@epilanthanomai no, we talked a lot about misogyny. We're against it (I'm against it, he's done a lot of reading to figure out his stance). I talked about what I want from him. Told him I don't want him to date people who aren't willing to be friends with me, and that I'll focus on that too - they can be OUR friends and only have benefits with one or the other.

toxic chick got fed up when he told her "no".

pers meta relationships life 

@epilanthanomai I like that I spelt "monogamy" "misogyny" in this tweet. We're both against both, I guess.

pers meta relationships life 

@maenad I figured that's what you meant, but I definitely had a moment of "Hey, against misogyny, okay. Guess that's an important one..." :-D

re: pers meta relationships life 

@maenad @epilanthanomai This is a good plan. I think you may have meant monogamy? I mean misogyny works too here, but

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@pagrus @epilanthanomai yeah, JUST caught that on re-reading.

sorry I've been shouting about trans misogyny today.

@maenad so so sorry you've had to suffer all of that on top of [gestures wildly]. your new friend sounds pretty okay :)

@maenad So sorry to hear about your dad and grandmother, I hope you are holding up all right. I am glad your friend was there for you

@maenad That's an awful month. I'm glad to hear you have someone on your side through it all, at least.

@maenad 🖤 i'm glad you're back, and, considering everything and everything else, okay. 🖤🖤🖤

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