I want to clarify that this post isn't a subtoot of anyone who might read this
I'm working on collaborative projects with a handful of straight men my age, one of whom is my ex, and I'm getting really tired of having the "no, not like that" conversation
sometimes I hate forming friendships with straight men, especially if they're single
I don't like the "will they, won't they" feeling, especially not from mutual friends. ESPECIALLY NOT FROM ME.
friendships are good. collaborative friendships are better. romantic partnerships are often disappointing.
I guess I prefer *them*, but feel like I'm making a mountain out of a molehill by asking for it (even though I respect other enbies who do).
which is probably not the point, especially not in this space.
I'm not gonna get a binder or start dressing more androgynously (because I honestly like my tits and fashion), but I might start making it more of a point to use neutral language for myself/request neutral pronouns where applicable.
watched someone come out as trans recently and immediately spout a bunch of internalized transphobia about how they can't correct people about their pronouns because people who do that are assholes
and realizing that I might be doing something similar? I keep coming down to not being able to escape "being a person who experiences misogyny" and "internalized misogyny" while remembering longing for a gender neutral pronoun in college.
I wrote a game/zine about self care now if only I can get my act together and follow the plan laid out for me by me: https://maenad.itch.io/worry-herbs
Ejected From The Establishment For Refusing To Stop Hollering About Hell Orbs
Science goth who likes hugs.
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